May I chime in? Gina and Maya; your research and
description as to methodology of the socio-path is
exemplary and well-written.
May I add a further aside to this discussion? When women
choose mates (boyfriends/husbands) they are really trying
to find a "father-figure" to fill the void leftover when
"little girls grow up". Depending on the relationship (or
no relationship) which the girl has had with her father
will determine the kind of mate she chooses.
If a woman seeks a socio-path it is not by accident. There
is something the woman wants to correct, and may be due to
the overt nuturing nature of the woman.
Let's face it, we don't jump into a relationship or
marriage without knowing a person inside and out. The fact
that these "sociopathic" issues on the part of the
boyfriend/husband should just "show up" is not believeable.
It is similar to the story; "I didnt know she had spent
time in a psych ward". There are blatantly obvious signs
and signals prior to settling into a relationship that
should have issued red flags long before someone "put a
ring on it" to quote Beyonce.
In other words, women choose to stay with a "less than
perfect" person because of the nuturing instinct. The woman
feels she can "change the person", but this never happens.
A person's personality is set in stone by the age of 4
(maybe earlier). There is no going back, even with modern
behavioural modification and other psychological
modalities, such as drug therapy, psychoanalysis, even
The best bet in the future is to examine why the woman
chooses a mate with less than stellar characteristics.
Often it is a weakness in the woman's personality that
needs readapting, perhaps counselling and maybe
hypnotherapy or other psychological methods. The woman
needs to identify and clarify why she has been made to feel
inadequate to the point of choosing men who are unhealthy
It is much easier to help a neurotic than it is to help a
socio or worse yet psychopath.
Women need to empower themselves enough to understand the
old patterns of poor choice in mate material. Also women
must demand what men would demand if they were in our
shoes, that being fair play between the sexes.
Wake up and smell the coffee; something is rotten in