May I chime in? Gina and Maya; your research and
description as to methodology of the socio-path is
exemplary and well-written.
May I add a further aside to this discussion? When women
choose mates (boyfriends/husbands) they are really trying
to find a "father-figure" to fill the void leftover when
"little girls grow up". Depending on the relationship (or
no relationship) which the girl has had with her father
will determine the kind of mate she chooses.
If a woman seeks a socio-path it is not by accident. There
is something the woman wants to correct, and may be due to
the overt nuturing nature of the woman.
Let's face it, we don't jump into a relationship or
marriage without knowing a person inside and out. The fact
that these "sociopathic" issues on the part of the
boyfriend/husband should just "show up" is not believeable.
It is similar to the story; "I didnt know she had spent
time in a psych ward". There are blatantly obvious signs
and signals prior to settling into a relationship that
should have issued red flags long before someone "put a
ring on it" to quote Beyonce.
In other words, women choose to stay with a "less than
perfect" person because of the nuturing instinct. The woman
feels she can "change the person", but this never happens.
A person's personality is set in stone by the age of 4
(maybe earlier). There is no going back, even with modern
behavioural modification and other psychological
modalities, such as drug therapy, psychoanalysis, even
Primal Therapy.
The best bet in the future is to examine why the woman
chooses a mate with less than stellar characteristics.
Often it is a weakness in the woman's personality that
needs readapting, perhaps counselling and maybe
hypnotherapy or other psychological methods. The woman
needs to identify and clarify why she has been made to feel
inadequate to the point of choosing men who are unhealthy
for her.
It is much easier to help a neurotic than it is to help a
socio or worse yet psychopath.
Women need to empower themselves enough to understand the
old patterns of poor choice in mate material. Also women
must demand what men would demand if they were in our
shoes, that being fair play between the sexes.
Wake up and smell the coffee; something is rotten in
relationshipville!jajo-
where i log i b
Monday, March 2, 2009
YEAH!!!!Today I Became A Friend of the Dalai Lama on Facebook
Isn't oddball somedays, besides the moon that I would become a friend of the Most Honourable Dalai Lama, so far away and yet so close. It is like the moon when it is 3/4 of a million miles from earth, and yet...you sometimes feel like you can reach out and touch the moon it is so close. What is with near yet so far...or far yet so near? Today I believe my separation is becoming closer than it ever has, or ever will again. I am making connections which I thought would never happen but are happening because OF DIVINE ORDINANCE only. It isnt man who makes the world, it is the DIVINE. No one can stop that, not me, that's for sure. So I will go with the flow as I fufill my intuitive feelings that something is looming near yet far on the horizon. And I think it's CALIFORNIA!!! RIGHT ON BABY BABA!!!
There is so much talk of BEING. What is BEING? Being is BEING in the HERE AND NOW. NOT THE FUTURE NOT THE PAST. THE MINIMINUTES WHEN I PUT each finger on each key as I type this. It is amazing to think about it. I found You. Oh my goodness I thought you were lost forever like my missing turtle. But you showed up. Thank goodness. I felt that I would never find you, I am so happy you are here. It makes me feel wonderful, that I can connect again to you. You have always meant so very much. And it is all good as I dispell the less the best from the best I can be world I am recreating from the BEING world of NOW. So how did this all arrange itself then, eh?
Who cares. It happens, and thank goodness it is good. It is something I know my soul has always wanted. And that it took so long, well that gives credence to the fact that GOOD THINGS TAKE A LONG TIME!!! AND BABY IT IS SOOOOOO GOOOOOOOOOOD!!!! RIGHT ON!!!
There is so much talk of BEING. What is BEING? Being is BEING in the HERE AND NOW. NOT THE FUTURE NOT THE PAST. THE MINIMINUTES WHEN I PUT each finger on each key as I type this. It is amazing to think about it. I found You. Oh my goodness I thought you were lost forever like my missing turtle. But you showed up. Thank goodness. I felt that I would never find you, I am so happy you are here. It makes me feel wonderful, that I can connect again to you. You have always meant so very much. And it is all good as I dispell the less the best from the best I can be world I am recreating from the BEING world of NOW. So how did this all arrange itself then, eh?
Who cares. It happens, and thank goodness it is good. It is something I know my soul has always wanted. And that it took so long, well that gives credence to the fact that GOOD THINGS TAKE A LONG TIME!!! AND BABY IT IS SOOOOOO GOOOOOOOOOOD!!!! RIGHT ON!!!
Friday, February 27, 2009
Tibetan Buddhism Study: Nascent Student Questions
Studying Tibetan Buddhism; as a nascent student, I am finding how much I would love to adapt "This is all an illusion". That would make it so much easier to understand. That pure spirit is eternal (within) and nobody, no thing can touch that or manipulate the PURE STATE OF BEING.
Buddhism is a philosophy more than a religion. I really do not want to worship things, like statuary. Did to much of that as a Catholic. As a kid I use to stare up at the huge marble sculptures in various churches and cathedrals and I recall, either from not eating breakfast prior to Mass or something odd was actually happening. Statues move. I think that is what we all hope for when we are religious. That all of a sudden, sad Jesus looking down from the massive cross will smile gently as if saying "Don't worry, things are ok, I'm just acting now". I kinda like the idea of having sculpture or religious depictions away from where I pray because I get upset with others depiction of what I feel is not my actual experience of the spiritual.
For example, my folks had a very (I mean very) tacky Virgin Mary on the dresser in the spare bedroom. I just did not want to pray to this, as it wasnt at all pure enough. Now lets say the sculpture was by a famous religious sculpture, let's say GERMAIN PILLON, well then I may give leave of my distaste for poor religious sculpture and actually "get into" praying my prayers before a statute. But still I'd rather not. I dont mind a cross without a figure. I dont need to be reminded of the pain Jesus went through. I live it everyday with the martyr-syndrome I have managed to develop over the years. Yes, I have not been lucky in love or life. In some ways, yes, but in most ways, any good thing I worked for and they were "the crumbs beneath the table" not the feast on the table that is for sure.
Religion I respect. I respect other's religious independence. It is important. I believe if a person (or group) has a strong belief system, that is a good thing, IF it brings about good. If not, the religion becomes a cult and it is not good.
So philosophy works for me. I like the idea of strengthening the mind (which is the spirit) when it is able to exist and express itself in a free way, and how pure it is, and how lacking of anything in this world. The spirit/mind is an entity, I believe which is constantly trying to win the battle between the world here and the eternal now. It is this dualism which gives me understanding of a new to "shuffle off the mortal coil" to quote Shakespeare, and to become, like the human crysalis, a spiritual butterfly which we have always been, but are still waiting to emerge from the coccoon of life.
It would give me a strong feeling and good feeling (but feelings are not important in Buddhism?). Oh no, this so confuses me! I have studied HUMANIST Psychology and have learned that the emotions, feelings, etc are teachers. But I am told to go beyond feelings. But we have to somehow synthesize emotions, they do something, don't they? Emotions cannot be all bad? Unless we are unempathic I will find this so difficult, unless all of a sudden my spirit bursts forth and I have no need for this world. But yes, in the spirit sense, I can see how emotions (negative emotions) could become a GREAT DETERENCE to SPIRITUAL ENLIGHTENMENT.
Please understand, I am working on this. I am listening to YOutube Dalai Lama and other Lama's to get a feel for the meaning behind the philosophy. I like to put all the cards on the table. Nothing hidden. Will this be difficult. Probably. Lessons are incremental. You dont go from here to there in 2.2 seconds. I expect this. I must learn patience and become slow as the turtle and deliberately slow. What should I do to slow down. I would love to slow down...how? What is the right method here?
Anyway, I praise you and thank-you for you helping me get to the next level in my spiritual attainment of purity of spirit and wonderous of being so I can pass this on to the next person, and so on and so on....Great Philosophy and it has always really been fascinating to me.
When I was a young girl (Grade Seven) my grandmother gave me $5.00 for a Christmas present. That was a lot for my grandma. She lived through the depression era and ever cent was important.
I really wanted for a long time a Buddha woman sculpture. I did not know the name of the buddha. I never knew there were women buddhas. I thought "groovy" (it was the sixties) The brass sculpture was found in a kiosk in the Mall in Toronto where I grew up.
"Oh look how gentile this Buddha...so peaceful! How perfect, how elegant" It also was an incence burner and being that it was the sixties, I thought "how cool!". I really liked the idea of the peaceful look on this woman's face and she was really beautiful and I just felt like she gave me a good feeling. So I got it and told my Catholic grandma. She wasnt upset that I purchase something that may be concerned "idolatry", as Catholics have lots of sculptures around the church. It isnt that we worship the statue, it is the power that we worship and the sculpture is a tool to get to the God in a faster way, as a reminder. All in all, I think that anything that can remind of to become spiritual is a good thing. Just not tons of the stuff. It can get very easily overwhelming and conflicting, at least I find this to be true. It is like sensory overload. I already am too sensitive and need less and less reminders. Really, well maybe I do know that I am getting older and I am getting my forgetful as my brain is shrinking with age. NOt fun!.
Only my born again Christian babysitter did not like the fact that she thought the buddha was a "idol" and she swiftly went to the garbage shute. I did not know this. When she told me this, I was very sad, but since I try not to be material, I put it behind me. I could always get another, if I really felt the need. Really the female buddha reminded me of the strength of my grandmother, and the beauty and grace that she was, living as a widow, going through life alone.
I had remembered a friend in University who had a roomie who was a buddha. The chi was really good, and either it was the Kung Fu movies (with David Carradine) I was watching each Saturday in the 70's or it was the atmosphere, I felt like I was walking on hallowed ground in the place where he lived (the Buddhist monk). I felt blessed to know these people in my spirit, and I can truly say this; I know you even though I have never met you. I am not talking looking at a picture either. I just know people before I meet them. I have dreamt of them, we know each other from our dreams. It is amazing! I have instant "connect" with people. Some more than others. I definitely feel the Dalai Lama is very close are the other Lama's and Buddhists I have met. I really feel like I can live in a better world when I am around them. I think I am "drinking in their bountiful spirit, of peace and love". It is a good feeling and I so want to be taught as I have been wanting to be taught for almost, forever!jajo
Buddhism is a philosophy more than a religion. I really do not want to worship things, like statuary. Did to much of that as a Catholic. As a kid I use to stare up at the huge marble sculptures in various churches and cathedrals and I recall, either from not eating breakfast prior to Mass or something odd was actually happening. Statues move. I think that is what we all hope for when we are religious. That all of a sudden, sad Jesus looking down from the massive cross will smile gently as if saying "Don't worry, things are ok, I'm just acting now". I kinda like the idea of having sculpture or religious depictions away from where I pray because I get upset with others depiction of what I feel is not my actual experience of the spiritual.
For example, my folks had a very (I mean very) tacky Virgin Mary on the dresser in the spare bedroom. I just did not want to pray to this, as it wasnt at all pure enough. Now lets say the sculpture was by a famous religious sculpture, let's say GERMAIN PILLON, well then I may give leave of my distaste for poor religious sculpture and actually "get into" praying my prayers before a statute. But still I'd rather not. I dont mind a cross without a figure. I dont need to be reminded of the pain Jesus went through. I live it everyday with the martyr-syndrome I have managed to develop over the years. Yes, I have not been lucky in love or life. In some ways, yes, but in most ways, any good thing I worked for and they were "the crumbs beneath the table" not the feast on the table that is for sure.
Religion I respect. I respect other's religious independence. It is important. I believe if a person (or group) has a strong belief system, that is a good thing, IF it brings about good. If not, the religion becomes a cult and it is not good.
So philosophy works for me. I like the idea of strengthening the mind (which is the spirit) when it is able to exist and express itself in a free way, and how pure it is, and how lacking of anything in this world. The spirit/mind is an entity, I believe which is constantly trying to win the battle between the world here and the eternal now. It is this dualism which gives me understanding of a new to "shuffle off the mortal coil" to quote Shakespeare, and to become, like the human crysalis, a spiritual butterfly which we have always been, but are still waiting to emerge from the coccoon of life.
It would give me a strong feeling and good feeling (but feelings are not important in Buddhism?). Oh no, this so confuses me! I have studied HUMANIST Psychology and have learned that the emotions, feelings, etc are teachers. But I am told to go beyond feelings. But we have to somehow synthesize emotions, they do something, don't they? Emotions cannot be all bad? Unless we are unempathic I will find this so difficult, unless all of a sudden my spirit bursts forth and I have no need for this world. But yes, in the spirit sense, I can see how emotions (negative emotions) could become a GREAT DETERENCE to SPIRITUAL ENLIGHTENMENT.
Please understand, I am working on this. I am listening to YOutube Dalai Lama and other Lama's to get a feel for the meaning behind the philosophy. I like to put all the cards on the table. Nothing hidden. Will this be difficult. Probably. Lessons are incremental. You dont go from here to there in 2.2 seconds. I expect this. I must learn patience and become slow as the turtle and deliberately slow. What should I do to slow down. I would love to slow down...how? What is the right method here?
Anyway, I praise you and thank-you for you helping me get to the next level in my spiritual attainment of purity of spirit and wonderous of being so I can pass this on to the next person, and so on and so on....Great Philosophy and it has always really been fascinating to me.
When I was a young girl (Grade Seven) my grandmother gave me $5.00 for a Christmas present. That was a lot for my grandma. She lived through the depression era and ever cent was important.
I really wanted for a long time a Buddha woman sculpture. I did not know the name of the buddha. I never knew there were women buddhas. I thought "groovy" (it was the sixties) The brass sculpture was found in a kiosk in the Mall in Toronto where I grew up.
"Oh look how gentile this Buddha...so peaceful! How perfect, how elegant" It also was an incence burner and being that it was the sixties, I thought "how cool!". I really liked the idea of the peaceful look on this woman's face and she was really beautiful and I just felt like she gave me a good feeling. So I got it and told my Catholic grandma. She wasnt upset that I purchase something that may be concerned "idolatry", as Catholics have lots of sculptures around the church. It isnt that we worship the statue, it is the power that we worship and the sculpture is a tool to get to the God in a faster way, as a reminder. All in all, I think that anything that can remind of to become spiritual is a good thing. Just not tons of the stuff. It can get very easily overwhelming and conflicting, at least I find this to be true. It is like sensory overload. I already am too sensitive and need less and less reminders. Really, well maybe I do know that I am getting older and I am getting my forgetful as my brain is shrinking with age. NOt fun!.
Only my born again Christian babysitter did not like the fact that she thought the buddha was a "idol" and she swiftly went to the garbage shute. I did not know this. When she told me this, I was very sad, but since I try not to be material, I put it behind me. I could always get another, if I really felt the need. Really the female buddha reminded me of the strength of my grandmother, and the beauty and grace that she was, living as a widow, going through life alone.
I had remembered a friend in University who had a roomie who was a buddha. The chi was really good, and either it was the Kung Fu movies (with David Carradine) I was watching each Saturday in the 70's or it was the atmosphere, I felt like I was walking on hallowed ground in the place where he lived (the Buddhist monk). I felt blessed to know these people in my spirit, and I can truly say this; I know you even though I have never met you. I am not talking looking at a picture either. I just know people before I meet them. I have dreamt of them, we know each other from our dreams. It is amazing! I have instant "connect" with people. Some more than others. I definitely feel the Dalai Lama is very close are the other Lama's and Buddhists I have met. I really feel like I can live in a better world when I am around them. I think I am "drinking in their bountiful spirit, of peace and love". It is a good feeling and I so want to be taught as I have been wanting to be taught for almost, forever!jajo
Random Job Generator - tm and patent pending
SOD OFF, EH?(tm - PATENT PENDING)
A Landscape Company
BONDAGE
a telephone company
(no need to explain here, we all get the name)
HYPERS ON TWO
an answering service OPERATED by and for harried and menopausal housewives
EVERYWHICH WAY AND LOOSE
(I wonder what this company does?)
STIFF UPPER LIP
(plastic surgeon's botox company)
The Other Life
A serial soap opera about the other life the actors would have had if they didnt land the soap opera jobs
DOWN BUT NOT OUT in BEVERLY HILLS
A reality show about real life down and outers (so called "loosers") who make it by the skin of their teeth, and extreme makeovers as CEO's of Fortune 500 companies
U2'S GOODY 2 SHOES
5th Avenue Store selling (what else) U2's old shoes
IRISHMEN DONT EAT HASH
A book about corn beef hookas
The Mysterious Micky Finn
The Whodunit about Micky Finn's Micky Finn
A Landscape Company
BONDAGE
a telephone company
(no need to explain here, we all get the name)
HYPERS ON TWO
an answering service OPERATED by and for harried and menopausal housewives
EVERYWHICH WAY AND LOOSE
(I wonder what this company does?)
STIFF UPPER LIP
(plastic surgeon's botox company)
The Other Life
A serial soap opera about the other life the actors would have had if they didnt land the soap opera jobs
DOWN BUT NOT OUT in BEVERLY HILLS
A reality show about real life down and outers (so called "loosers") who make it by the skin of their teeth, and extreme makeovers as CEO's of Fortune 500 companies
U2'S GOODY 2 SHOES
5th Avenue Store selling (what else) U2's old shoes
IRISHMEN DONT EAT HASH
A book about corn beef hookas
The Mysterious Micky Finn
The Whodunit about Micky Finn's Micky Finn
Monday, February 23, 2009
Now About The Visions From Loving Sentient Beings
Thank-you today for your projected love visions! I think while meditating today with eyes closed I saw in my field of vision wonderful blue (between cerelean and brazil blue) and then I was a round and green pomegrante-like tomate round fruit being offered and I could taste it's healing power. Then I saw a moose that turned into a cute Mongolian pony! Thank-you! I'll have to learn how to talk with visions too. I try that with the animals, that is how they think, but to project for that far...that takes an art form! You are wonderfully talented ppl. I want to show you something about a real picture with some sentient beings. It is interesting if you want I'll show you, it is the first time I have seen how this happens. Also I remember more angel like monks with white doves over their heads wearing red robes with orange (what are they called) prayer shawls. Beautiful angels and floating and then looked like baby Jesus all light around and floating the same way. Is this a merger of religions, or what! Cool! jajo
Why I Want To Be A Student of Tibetan Buddhism
1. I would like to be a student of Buddhism because I like the spirit of Buddhist, they are peaceful, loving, giving and graceful. Buddhists have meaning and reason in their lives. They live to help others.\
2. I'd like to travel to spiritual sites and be taught by spiritual people.
3. I'd like to learn the various arts that are prevalent in the Buddhist tradition; I'd love to learn esoteric/mysterious truths of the masters.
4. I'd like to conquer life and become a spiritual warrior. I want to live with purpose and meaning and to be of help to people.
5. I'd love to be the real me. Not some carbon copy or some less than who I could be me. I want to know the spirit behind me or within/without me. I want to know who exactly is the sentient being that takes residence within my soul.
6. I'd like to become gifted and produce art with meaning and purpose. I want to appreciate the small things and see beauty in a leaf of grass.
7. I'd like to solve problems that befall the earth. I'd like to get divine help to do this. I want to evoke the essence of being and reconnect with this force forever and enjoy forever now.
8. I'd love to hook up with old friends and beings on the otherside and laugh again!
9. I'd like to do the impossible and find the impossible possible.
10. I'd love to bring out the best in everyone and thing.
jajo
2. I'd like to travel to spiritual sites and be taught by spiritual people.
3. I'd like to learn the various arts that are prevalent in the Buddhist tradition; I'd love to learn esoteric/mysterious truths of the masters.
4. I'd like to conquer life and become a spiritual warrior. I want to live with purpose and meaning and to be of help to people.
5. I'd love to be the real me. Not some carbon copy or some less than who I could be me. I want to know the spirit behind me or within/without me. I want to know who exactly is the sentient being that takes residence within my soul.
6. I'd like to become gifted and produce art with meaning and purpose. I want to appreciate the small things and see beauty in a leaf of grass.
7. I'd like to solve problems that befall the earth. I'd like to get divine help to do this. I want to evoke the essence of being and reconnect with this force forever and enjoy forever now.
8. I'd love to hook up with old friends and beings on the otherside and laugh again!
9. I'd like to do the impossible and find the impossible possible.
10. I'd love to bring out the best in everyone and thing.
jajo
About my Religious Experience
About my Religious Experience
I am Catholic,baptized, confirmed but feel I am not spiritually accepted for some reason. I think it has to do with an incident going back to Gr 8 when I was promised to be able to read the 2nd Reading at Mass at 11:00 am Sunday.
To this day, my heart aches with regret as I was told I could not read the Reading as I was a girl.
I really felt like I was a "child of a lesser god". I dont see what my having to be a girl (now a woman) has or had anything to do with being able to read a sermon on the altar.
I guess I will have a hard time dealing with this, as I felt the way it was handled was not fair. I did not go back to the church on Sundays because I felt cheated. I will give respect to those of spirit, who are honestly deserving of that honour. However, I felt my honour as a woman (girl) was shaken and abruptly disrupted my spiritual centre. In this way I have a big gapping hole in my spiritual heart.
Today I feel that there is a cult to religiousity and this is a sin. It is something which makes me gag. I feel if the Monsieugneur was an man of spirit, he would have lead me to Christ, not away from him. Although, I did have remembrances of him, thinking he is like kin, being Irish, being like my grandfather, driving a caddy. But I felt that there was nothing that made him spiritually inferior.
The problem with religions is that they have a heirarchial system which I feel is sometimes a block to a true spiritual path. I feel that if I am to reach out to a religion and they reject me again, I might as well be called "Capstone" (The capstone the builder rejected became the Lords).
So I guess I am trying to say, I want to follow a religion but I will never be a sheeple blindly following a cult. A cult is obvious, as it does not teach from scripture, it does not bring forth a renewal of spirit or fellowship.
If I join a religion (I am still Catholic because I want to believe it gets better all the time, but it must try to include rather than exclude layety). I dont know if I could be a multiplicity of religions. I just dont like the word "religion" I prefer "spiritual" and "enlightened".
My happiest times in my life have been when I have felt totally accepted and loved. I feel the "zen" feelings I feel, being in the "now", achieving spiritual gifts, giving freely, loving dearly, laughing, being in the flow, finding the Truths, all these are important to me.
I want to believe that we are more than we think we are. That the universe is limitless. That we have a purpose and a destiny. That we can make the world heaven, or at least as close to heaven as possible.
We need to find out how. We need to discover our roots of our soul and find where we truly belong, spiritually speaking, and to stay in that wonderful flow as long as we can and to make it last as long as time eternal never ending soul life.
Sending peace and love blessings to fill forever your neverending divine universe of light and Love.
I am Catholic,baptized, confirmed but feel I am not spiritually accepted for some reason. I think it has to do with an incident going back to Gr 8 when I was promised to be able to read the 2nd Reading at Mass at 11:00 am Sunday.
To this day, my heart aches with regret as I was told I could not read the Reading as I was a girl.
I really felt like I was a "child of a lesser god". I dont see what my having to be a girl (now a woman) has or had anything to do with being able to read a sermon on the altar.
I guess I will have a hard time dealing with this, as I felt the way it was handled was not fair. I did not go back to the church on Sundays because I felt cheated. I will give respect to those of spirit, who are honestly deserving of that honour. However, I felt my honour as a woman (girl) was shaken and abruptly disrupted my spiritual centre. In this way I have a big gapping hole in my spiritual heart.
Today I feel that there is a cult to religiousity and this is a sin. It is something which makes me gag. I feel if the Monsieugneur was an man of spirit, he would have lead me to Christ, not away from him. Although, I did have remembrances of him, thinking he is like kin, being Irish, being like my grandfather, driving a caddy. But I felt that there was nothing that made him spiritually inferior.
The problem with religions is that they have a heirarchial system which I feel is sometimes a block to a true spiritual path. I feel that if I am to reach out to a religion and they reject me again, I might as well be called "Capstone" (The capstone the builder rejected became the Lords).
So I guess I am trying to say, I want to follow a religion but I will never be a sheeple blindly following a cult. A cult is obvious, as it does not teach from scripture, it does not bring forth a renewal of spirit or fellowship.
If I join a religion (I am still Catholic because I want to believe it gets better all the time, but it must try to include rather than exclude layety). I dont know if I could be a multiplicity of religions. I just dont like the word "religion" I prefer "spiritual" and "enlightened".
My happiest times in my life have been when I have felt totally accepted and loved. I feel the "zen" feelings I feel, being in the "now", achieving spiritual gifts, giving freely, loving dearly, laughing, being in the flow, finding the Truths, all these are important to me.
I want to believe that we are more than we think we are. That the universe is limitless. That we have a purpose and a destiny. That we can make the world heaven, or at least as close to heaven as possible.
We need to find out how. We need to discover our roots of our soul and find where we truly belong, spiritually speaking, and to stay in that wonderful flow as long as we can and to make it last as long as time eternal never ending soul life.
Sending peace and love blessings to fill forever your neverending divine universe of light and Love.
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